There was a landmark study conducted several years ago in which researchers asked hundreds of kindergarten aged children whether it was better to have one cookie now, or ten cookies tomorrow. Almost without exception the children stated that ten cookies tomorrow was a better deal than only one today. The researchers would then produce a cookie, and tell the children that they could have it right now, or wait until tomorrow when they could have ten. Again almost without exception, the children chose the one cookie that was currently before their eyes – despite having only moments earlier stated that it was better to have ten tomorrow. The researcher’s conclusion was that children of this age are emotionally immature and unable to put off immediate gratification for long term benefit. We are supposed to grow out of this as we progress into adulthood. So – is it better to have a single, long-term monogamous relationship with one individual that forsakes all others, or to have a string of meaningless sexual affairs with multiple individuals?
Wednesday, January 30, 2008
The Multiple Cookie Theorem
There was a landmark study conducted several years ago in which researchers asked hundreds of kindergarten aged children whether it was better to have one cookie now, or ten cookies tomorrow. Almost without exception the children stated that ten cookies tomorrow was a better deal than only one today. The researchers would then produce a cookie, and tell the children that they could have it right now, or wait until tomorrow when they could have ten. Again almost without exception, the children chose the one cookie that was currently before their eyes – despite having only moments earlier stated that it was better to have ten tomorrow. The researcher’s conclusion was that children of this age are emotionally immature and unable to put off immediate gratification for long term benefit. We are supposed to grow out of this as we progress into adulthood. So – is it better to have a single, long-term monogamous relationship with one individual that forsakes all others, or to have a string of meaningless sexual affairs with multiple individuals?
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I'll take all the hot bitches.
Hmmm, a long term monogamous relationship with one individual which equals no sex after a while or the meaningless/obligatory sex acts..VS a string of meaningless sexual affairs with multiple individuals. Is there a diference?
I say as long as all involved are upfront and honest..and protected..go for it!
I like a hydrid approach - I'll have the relationship and girls on the side. Its tricky but it can work.
One relationship because as we age your choices start to slim and who wants to be the lonely/creepy guy/girl in the looking for sex. Face it, at a certain age it just dies off. So sometimes you have to give something up, multiple partners for a time period for a lifetime of sex with the same person but (if you choose the right person) no loneliness. Sorry guys but at a certain age you just are not attractive to the young "hot" girl. Unless your Hugh Hefner of course!
No it does not die off....It gets better with age!!Don't believe it
A touch of gray around the temples, an air of confidence that comes with experience, a few dollars in the pocket - oh yeah, we can still nail the young hotties. But women just get old. Sorry...
So can she!!!!!!!!
To the above poster..who has the relationship and the sex on the side:
What's missing in your life and what if you are treated as the meaningless one?
Guys get old too...trust me young chickies don't want it either unless there's money involved, then everything looks good.
Thats okay. In fact, thats the point. I have the money. Im not paying for the sex Im paying for the hot little thing to leave when Im done.
She's glad to leave
Dave - you asked the question but didn't take a side. Come on - spill your position!
Hey - I'm just a fly on the wall over here... But since you're pressing me:
I think as long as everyone is honest and up front, and no one is being deceitful or dishonest, then any relationship that is agreed upon by all of the parties is fine. Especially if it involves group sex with multiple females. But if one has agreed to monogamy, one is bound to one's word. If one does not wish to enter into such an arrangement, that must be clear to all parties so that they may decide whether to continue with the relationship. But don't cheat - that is dishonest and lacks integrity and character.
There's the key--"Relationship that is agreed upon" So it's all explained up front?
It's all written off as meaningless. Sounds like that person who decides is the loser in the long run.
How does one detach themselves and remain a person of integrity and good character?
Yes - it MUST be explained up front so that the other party understands the terms and can either agree to them or choose not to continue the relationship.
In this respect, both parties make a decision. One decides that he or she does not wish to be in a monogamous relationship, and the other decides whether or not those terms are acceptable and acts accordingly.
One maintains ones intergrity and character when one is honest and up front about these terms. One loses these values when one promises something (in this case monogamy) but then does not keep one's word. They call that cheating for a reason.
Not all couples are compatible, and sometimes agreeing to go separate ways due to these incompatibilites is the best thing for both parties.
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